Over the last week I have had several opportunities to talk to couples who have been married for over 25 years. In all the conversations the hard work of marriage was mentioned. Each couple talked about how hard some parts of their married lives have been. One couple verbalized that the only way they got through it was that for both of them divorce wasn't an option.
It seems like many people think that marriage should be the easiest relationship, after all when you are in love that is enough. The problem is that love fades, it is effected by bad breath and words spoken in moments of anger. The feeling of love won't carry a marriage. Only the commitment to love will carry a marriage through the years. When I ask a couple of they are committed through sickness and health, in wealth and in poverty, etc. I'm really asking are you willing to stick this out no matter what?
The amazing thing that I see in these couples and I have read in the statistics is that when a couple stays together through the rough times and works at the relationship they are happier than they thought they would ever become. Now it does mean that you have to do hard work, but almost everyone who does it says that the work was more than worthwhile. This is one of the reasons that I'm excited about the Marriage Mentoring program that we are going to be offering after the first of the year.
Stay tuned for more info to come.
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